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Some thoughts on Eric Powell and The Goon

I’m going to start thing off by saying that I think Eric Powell is an extremely talented artist and writer. He’s created some really amazing characters and stories, and his writing has managed to make me both laugh and cry on many occasions.

And you know what else? He’s also disgustingly transphobic.

I’m sure that most of the people that see this will start sending me angry asks, or reblog this and say that I “can’t take a joke”, or any other sort of dismissive garbage.

Regardless of whether or not you enjoy the series, or if you weren’t offended by it, or anything else? He’s still transphobic. And I’ll show you all exactly why.

However, right now I will put a GREAT BIG TRIGGER WARNING for violence against a transvestite being played for laughs.

If you don’t want to see any of that, I suggest you avoid reading any further. And since I know not everyone is comfortable with seeing this imagery on their dash, I’ll be putting it under a cut.

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“Yep that’s an awfully big tranny, alright” …yikes

once-ler-direction:

noitemsfoxonlyfinaldestination:

ferrets-are-awesome:

fast-adults-at-work:

ferrets-are-awesome:

inexplainable-me:

queersecrets:

[image: starburst candy. text: “I’m asexual I don’t find people attractive but I just really want to FUCK”]

To whomever submitted this:

That makes you Aromantic, not Asexual.

No. You can be Asexual and have sex.

Yes you can be asexual and have sex, but to be Asexual you don’t have a sex drive. You don’t want to “fuck”, but you can be attracted to people, have relationships, and even have sexual ones.

I wish more people knew about Asexuality…

Many Asexuals have sex drives. Sex is a good way to relieve that drive.

To be Asexual you must not be sexually attracted to people.

Wat

If you are not sexually attracted to people, that might make you paraphilic.

I am so confused…

Fun Facts About Asexuality for the Willfully Ignorant

lauralot89:

You can know that you’re asexual when you’re a teenager, just like you can know that you’re gay/straight/bi/pan/etc. when you’re a teenager.

You can masturbate and still be asexual.

You can have sex and still be asexual.

You can enjoy sex and still be asexual.

You can desire sex (sexual desire is not sexual attraction) and still be asexual.

You can watch porn and still be asexual.

You can write porn and still be asexual.

You can know you’re asexual without trying sex or masturbation first.

You can know you’re asexual without “getting your hormones checked.”

You can find people attractive and still be asexual.

You can make dirty jokes and still be asexual.

You can have kinks and still be asexual.

You can and should ignore dumbasses who tell you you’re too young to know if you’re asexual, or that you have no consistent definition of your sexuality, or that you’re an overly defensive special snowflake because you won’t allow them to police your identity.

You can and should tell the aforementioned dumbasses to pull their heads out of their asses and think before they speak.

I’ve seen so much idiocy today and it’s not even noon yet. Christ.

so seriously what’s the point of informing people that you’re asexual? There’s no visible difference from a “sexual” person.

asexual-people-problems:

Submitted by: anonymous

couldn’t this apply to anything? what does this have to do with being asexual

Tumblr Asexuality seems to be based on the whole Me VS Other Girls mentality

The AntiQueerBrigade is at it again guys setting the parameters in which I can define my sexuality based on their ignorant assumptions.

AKA Tumblr Asexuals

It makes me sad when people erase my identity

tea-and-anthropology:

feminist-killjoy:

tea-and-anthropology:

I’m also starting to get tired of all these posts saying “there’s too many labels for sexuality.” I’m sorry but there are too many kids out there who don’t know there is a name for what they’re feeling so they think they’re a freak. They think there is something mentally and/or physically wrong with them for not experiencing something that they’re told is only natural to experience. It’s sad to think too that some people in the LGBTQ community especially some of the supposed SJ bloggers in the LGBTQ community, have been quite disparaging towards us, speaking for us, and even erasing us recently when:

Asexuals and Aromantics struggle with their identity…a lot.

Asexuals and Aromantics have to come out to their friends and families

Asexuality and being Aromantic has been and is still treated as a symptom of physical or mental illness

Asexuals and Aromantics are told they choose to be the way they are

Asexuals and Aromantics are told that their existence is unnatural

Asexuals and Aromantics are told that their relationships are incomplete

Asexuals and Aromantics are treated like freaks of nature by religious organizations

Asexuals and Aromantics are expected to uphold societal norms. They’re expected to experience sexual attraction. They’re expected to feel romantic attraction. They’re just as expected to uphold the status quo - heteronormativity - as any human being on this planet is or else face prejudice.

Asexuals and Aromantics are not always cis-gender

Asexuals and Aromantics are not always hetero-(romantic/sexual)

Asexuals and Aromantics are told they can be reformed into “normal” individuals.

Asexuals and Aromantics are told they can be fixed through violent sexual acts

Asexuals and Aromantics are bullied and ridiculed by their peers too

Asexuals and Aromantics experience erasure from their peers

Asexuals and Aromantics lack proper representation in the media and when they are represented it can be dangerously stereotypical

Asexuals and Aromantics have various unique-to-their-orientation struggles just as anyone of any orientation does.

Asexuals and Aromantics experience depression due to any one of the above and could benefit from help hotlines

Do any of these things sound familiar? Do these things affect your communities too or have they historically affected your communities? This isn’t about Asexuals and/or Aromantics trying to invade your space or adding unnecessary labels to our understanding of sex, gender, and forms of attraction. We exist and we experience these things too.

Why can’t asexuals make their own group? Asexuality by itself has nothing to do with gender so it just doesn’t make sense that they want to be included in a group where the discrimination is gender focused. I just…Sometimes Asexuals make my head hurt. I don’t see why they can’t just be lesbian or gay or Bi. Like WHO cares if you aren’t sexually attracted to people. Sexuality differs for each individual we’re not all wired the same, we’re not all attracted to the same thing, we don’t all respond the same way. It’s not a big deal. You’re not facing any discrimination that’s stems from being asexual BE HAPPY

Filed under reasons I’m not going to take you seriously:

Exhibit A - “Why can’t asexuals make their own group? Asexuality by itself has nothing to do with gender so it just doesn’t make sense that they want to be included in a group where the discrimination is gender focused.”

Exhibit B - “I don’t see why they can’t just be lesbian or gay or Bi. Like WHO cares if you aren’t sexually attracted to people.”

Exhibit C -“You’re not facing any discrimination that’s stems from being asexual BE HAPPY”

Exhibit D:

If you’re going to sit there and make assumptions whilst simultaneously shutting down people’s attempts to inform you that you’re horribly wrong about something than I cannot waste my time on you.

GOOD JOB you almost have an argument there, now all you have to do is make a rebuttal!

I’ve also noted that some gay men seem to be the most suspicious of asexual people. This is partially understandable because gay men, of course, are also part of the high testosterone brood—men. But there may be other reasons as well. First, openly gay people, especially those with a bit of seasoning in the sexual marketplace, are often astute enough to know that people claiming one sexual identity (e.g., “I am bisexual,” “I am heterosexual”) at one point in their lives may “come out” as gay years later. I, too, do not discount the possibility that some asexual people, or those who identify as such, might be gay people in waiting, although I suspect that this does not apply to the majority of asexual people.

An additional reason why some gay men may be opposed to accepting a 1 percent (or more) prevalence rate may concern justice sensitivity. Gay and lesbian people have often fought hard for the right to be accepted in Western society as a visible minority. Thus, although most gays and lesbians seem very accepting of sexual variations, some may be justifiably sensitive to issues related to their own rights and recognition. Now there is a new kid on the block, perhaps encroaching on their hard-fought and hard-won space. Does yet another sexual minority in some way diminish the status of the original sexual minority group? Perhaps some gays and lesbians believe so, if only on an implicit level. Relatedly, I expect that all humans, as social psychologists have argued, have a tendency to dislike the “out-group” and, sadly and concomitantly, to force to the back of the metaphorical bus ever more marginalized groups, even among those who believe that they themselves are near the back of the bus already.

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—

Understanding Asexuality, from chapter 4

In which Dr. Anthony Bogaert conjectures about why the members of the anti-ace brigade (made up predominantly of queer allosexual/consexual people) hate us so much.

(via metapianycist)

Without getting too much into this I want to make a few things clear.

1) No, we don’t hate you. Criticism of shit is not equal to hate. We don’t criticize out of hate, we do it because a lot of shit doesn’t make sense. Because we’re trying to understand it ourselves on a level that’s deeper than out right acceptance without thought. Acceptance without thought causes problems, after all, which is why there is such a staggeringly high number of trans* abled people. No one bothered to criticize their bullshit until after it was already well ingrained. That’s not to say that asexual politics are on the same line as trans* abled people. It’s just a demonstration of how a lack of critical thinking can and often does cause problems.

2) A lot of the anger we give comes from the people on your side of the fence constantly encroaching on our shit. And no I’m not just talking about spaces, words, or symbols. I’m also talking about who we are. I can’t tell you how many times I’ve had to point out that homosexuality is NOT defined as same sex sexual attraction. This isn’t a definition that homosexual people have applied to ourselves, it’s one that asexual people have assigned to us. People in your community have, and still do, define the orientations of LGBQ people. I’m pretty sure that alone gives us right to be rather angry when some asexual person/people do more harmful shit such as the spaces, language, symbols, etc.

Not that you’ve ever been capable of parsing things out in that way, of course. As far as you’re concerned you’re free to generalize and override us (to the point of applying a new sexual identity term that many of us aren’t comfortable with), but if we so much as group people in your group according to hetero attraction it’s treated like the genocide of your people. We can’t call heter aces straight, but you can call us allosexual. You need to be able to ignore that we’re LGBQ, but we can’t ignore that heter aces are hetero.

You seeing the problem here? You seeing why a lot of us are pissed? Because this shit isn’t new for us. This is what we’ve dealt with for a long time both from people in your community, and the cistraights outside of your community. This is pretty fucking common for us.

3) I do fully agree with the last paragraph. Not in the racist “believe they are at the back of the bus” shit, though. I don’t ~believe I’m at a lower rung on society for being gay. It’s not something I’m convinced of. It’s a fact. Homosexual people are at the bottom of the Sexual Orientation Ladder. I am, of course, on a higher rung than LGBQ women, trans* people, POC, etc, but in terms of sexual orientation you cannot get any lower than homosexual.

So no, pushing out non LGBQ asexual people is not marginalizing an already marginalized group. I cannot marginalize cis heter aces for being hetero ace. It isn’t a thing that’s in my power to do outside of spaces that are specifically created with my needs in mind. Outside of being able to safe guard my own communit(ies) I don’t have the power to marginalize or whatever other racist language metaphor coopting that some dude who wrote a book wants to suggest.

Asexual people are not worse off than homosexual people. Stop framing your arguments or experiences or whatever in manners which often suggest that you are. It’s infuriating, and doubly so when you pull this shit and then claim that not only do the people you’ve trod all over hate you, but that said anger isn’t warranted against you. It’s deliberately obtuse bullshit that demonstrates how ignorant you are to the impact of your own actions, and just how entitled you believe yourself to be to the kindness and compassion of the LGBQ people you treat like shit.

And I do wholly mean this both as a general statement of how many asexual people treat LGBQ non aces, as well as a personal statement of you, Metapianycist, treat your LGBQ siblings. You, specifically, treat us like shit and then demand that we don’t do the same to you. You walk all over us, dismiss everything we say, and refuse to take just a moment to consider that maybe you’re in the wrong. Yes, many LGBQ non aces are pissed off. No, it’s not anti-ace brigade hate. It’s LGBQ people who are pissed off at asexual people who treat LGBQ people like shit.

It’s us tired of explaining to your group the importance and impact that specific words have. It’s us tired of teaching your group the historical significance of symbols that we hold quite dear. It’s us tired of explaining to your group what we are, how we function, and how our oppression is not something which privileges us. It’s us tired of hearing/reading “My (parent/friend/etc) thinksI’M GAY OMG HOW COULD THEY I’M SO NOT UGH” (boo fucking hoo what a tragedy to be considered gay) statement(s) over and over again. It’s us tired of getting more heterosexist, homophobic bullshit from a group of marginalized people who can’t seem to comprehend that 1% of oppression is still fucking oppression and even that much is not excusable.

But more than that, and all the things I’ve missed, it’s also the constant defending of this bullshit from the many people on your side of the fence that makes it all too much to simply sit and ignore. It’s good that you’re criticizing AVEN, and pointing out how so many people in your community pull offensive bullshit. I just wish you had the ability to do the same to the tumblr asexual community, because pal, there’s a lot of over lap that you’re refusing to see.

Amazingly enough AVEN asexual people are not 100% different from tumblr asexual people. AVEN isn’t some specific instance of problems that sprung up entirely of its own accord. It’s a community of asexual people who built said community in a fashion that protects said problems from all criticism. It’s a community of asexual people who refuse to think that they could ever have done anything wrong, who then go on to teach other people that same shit.

Tumblr asexual people are not magically different from AVEN asexual people. Tumblr asexual poeple are not automatically better than AVEN asexual people. Deconstructing AVEN would not magically fix all the problems that AVEN defended. You are not two completely different creeds of people. A forum of expression does not change the fact that much of what AVEN stands for is what many people, not just asexual people, believe to be true.

It’s a shame that you can’t seem to realize (or maybe you do and don’t care) that tumblr asexual people are just as capable of doing the same shit that AVEN asexual people do, if not more so. It’s also a shame that, even if you could read this, you wouldn’t consider any of it because, as always, those goddamn queers just can’t seem to ever stop hating asexual people. Right?

(via harmonioussanctity)

I hate tumblr asexuals, I’m not even sorry.

It makes me sad when people erase my identity

tea-and-anthropology:

I’m also starting to get tired of all these posts saying “there’s too many labels for sexuality.” I’m sorry but there are too many kids out there who don’t know there is a name for what they’re feeling so they think they’re a freak. They think there is something mentally and/or physically wrong with them for not experiencing something that they’re told is only natural to experience. It’s sad to think too that some people in the LGBTQ community especially some of the supposed SJ bloggers in the LGBTQ community, have been quite disparaging towards us, speaking for us, and even erasing us recently when:

Asexuals and Aromantics struggle with their identity…a lot.

Asexuals and Aromantics have to come out to their friends and families

Asexuality and being Aromantic has been and is still treated as a symptom of physical or mental illness

Asexuals and Aromantics are told they choose to be the way they are

Asexuals and Aromantics are told that their existence is unnatural

Asexuals and Aromantics are told that their relationships are incomplete

Asexuals and Aromantics are treated like freaks of nature by religious organizations

Asexuals and Aromantics are expected to uphold societal norms. They’re expected to experience sexual attraction. They’re expected to feel romantic attraction. They’re just as expected to uphold the status quo - heteronormativity - as any human being on this planet is or else face prejudice.

Asexuals and Aromantics are not always cis-gender

Asexuals and Aromantics are not always hetero-(romantic/sexual)

Asexuals and Aromantics are told they can be reformed into “normal” individuals.

Asexuals and Aromantics are told they can be fixed through violent sexual acts

Asexuals and Aromantics are bullied and ridiculed by their peers too

Asexuals and Aromantics experience erasure from their peers

Asexuals and Aromantics lack proper representation in the media and when they are represented it can be dangerously stereotypical

Asexuals and Aromantics have various unique-to-their-orientation struggles just as anyone of any orientation does.

Asexuals and Aromantics experience depression due to any one of the above and could benefit from help hotlines

Do any of these things sound familiar? Do these things affect your communities too or have they historically affected your communities? This isn’t about Asexuals and/or Aromantics trying to invade your space or adding unnecessary labels to our understanding of sex, gender, and forms of attraction. We exist and we experience these things too.

Why can’t asexuals make their own group? Asexuality by itself has nothing to do with gender so it just doesn’t make sense that they want to be included in a group where the discrimination is gender focused. I just…Sometimes Asexuals make my head hurt. I don’t see why they can’t just be lesbian or gay or Bi. Like WHO cares if you aren’t sexually attracted to people. Sexuality differs for each individual we’re not all wired the same, we’re not all attracted to the same thing, we don’t all respond the same way. It’s not a big deal. You’re not facing any discrimination that’s stems from being asexual BE HAPPY